I have been training the boys for a while now to come right away when I call, without having to count 1-2-3. Before I would oppose this training method, thinking they just need more time to come. However, after having to repeat counting numerous times and still they don't come, I understand the major flaw in this method. When you count to 3 (sometimes more), you give them at least 3 chances to disobey you.
So I now train and expect the kids to come right away when I call them, and to do things I ask right away. My friend Karen passed on this 5 Finger Rule to obedience from a book: 1. Yes, mommy 2. I'm coming 3. Right away 4. All the way 5. In a Happy Way. This rule helps kids to obey right away without grumbling.
To help the boys do this, Karen had also suggested to make an Obedience Chart for each kid, even for my 2 year old daughter! Each kid gets 3 chances to earn a sticker for the day if they obey the 5 Finger Rule. When they earn all the stickers, then they get $1 to buy anything they want from a store. I was so surprised to see how much it's been working! Both Ethan and Noah are much more aware and tuned-in when I call them, and they would also know right away if they had missed the chance. Even little Bethany is able to earn 11 stickers so far by coming right away when I call...not so much on doing what I ask her yet. Look at their happy faces when they get their reward! Praise God!
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| Noah earned himself a R2D2 candy dispenser. |
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| Ethan earned himself a yo-yo |
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