It's been a week since my in-laws have left our house. They stayed for more than a week this time. Every time they come visit, it seems like the boys' behavior go downhill from the beginning and last for a couple weeks. Discipline would get much looser and my motivation to be consistent also goes down. I'm making this sound very terrible, right?
Tonight, Steve and I had this discussion of what to do when his parents are visiting. It's been a vicious cycle of us training the boys, then his parents come, they behave badly, then we end up re-training. I was putting the blame on them, that they keep interfering and letting the boys loose. However, Steve brought up some very good and key points that I hated to admit - his parents are not the ones to blame, we are.
We are the owner of our kids, so no matter who is in our house, we are solely responsible for their discipline. Yes, we will face disagreements and interference from my in-laws, however, we still don't give up to do our part. We got more passive and lazy when Steve's parents are there to help, therefore, the boys got more opportunities to get away with things.
In the coming days, we'll be have clearer communication with Steve's parents so that we're on the same page with expectations. Hopefully this will avoid some of the issues we've had.
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